Adoptive Parenthood: Welcoming a New Child

Family isn’t all about blood relations. Sometimes, it’s about choosing people you want in your life and treating them as one of your own. Hopeful parents who don’t wish to conceive (or can’t) can look into other options. Adoption is a wise and popular alternative.

It’s admittedly an arduous process, one that involves working with local agencies to ensure that you’re prepared to raise a child. Not only that, but you have to work on your household, too. After all, your house and land in West Melboune may be home to you, but it’s uncharted territory for your future child.

Below, we’ll discuss the ways to prepare for the homecoming of your new family member.

Determine a Care Plan

Parenthood is challenging, and it’s made more difficult if you’re unprepared. During the weeks or months leading up to your child’s arrival, it’s important to remember that you have to do more than provide their basic needs.

You also have to take their future into consideration, especially in terms of health and education.

Now is the time to make decisions regarding schooling. Is homeschooling your best bet, or would you prefer to entrust your child to an institution whose vision and mission are in line with your values? Regardless of your answer, keep in mind that any changes made even in schooling can affect how well your child adjusts to his or her new life.

As for the child’s health, it’s good to have a set pediatrician, even if it’s just for regular checkups. This not only allows your doctor to bond with your child and give him time to get to know your child’s health history. As a result, the doctor can better treat your child without having to consult other physicians first.

Prepare the Room

Don’t get too excited when readying their room. Instead, purchase the bare essentials like furniture, age-appropriate toys, and even a little bit of clothing. Leave the design aspect to your child, especially if he or she is old enough. Allowing children to make decisions about their living conditions gives them some semblance of control of their new life.

Additionally, doing so gives you the opportunity to learn more about your new child’s interests. You can also bond while you take him or her shopping for more clothes and decorations.

Spend Quality Time

father spending time with his adopted son

Parents who adopt children age 16 and under are entitled to paid leave. Take advantage of this and use the time to bond with your child. While exciting, the event should be kept low-key and intimate in the first few months to allow the child to adjust to the new life, as experts suggest. This prevents over-stimulation on your child’s part. Give the child a house tour and then perhaps prepare a meal of their choice before having a quiet night in.

In the following weeks, establish a routine. Predictability is key, and knowing the schedule for the day will help your child feel safer in your home.

Aside from that, ensure that lines of communication are open. Give them prompts to speak, and even allow them to make decisions about stuff around the household, like meals or shows to watch on the television.

Be Kind to Yourself

This is as much of an adjustment period to you as it is to them. Your child may feel frightened or overwhelmed. And in this scenario, rejection on your part is normal as they slowly become integrated into your life. Don’t be too hard on yourself. So long as you do right by them, and love and care for your child as you should, everything will be alright.